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Selves and Identities

Candles. Photo by Zoran Kokanovic

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2019

Today marks the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, a time to honor the lives of those killed because of anti-transgender violence. I wish all of my trans friends and readers love and support on this day of mourning.

Post of the Week

Post of the Week: “Butch Mama”

Let’s continue the conversation about gender and parental identity with a look at a recent piece by a butch mama about her princess-loving daughter. It also involves Boris Karloff, the actor who famously played Frankenstein’s monster, which seems appropriate given that Halloween is this week.

Parent and child

Gender Identity, Parental Identity, and the Parental Titles We Take

Last month, Freddy McConnell, a transgender man, lost a lawsuit in the U.K. to be legally named his child’s father. Because he gave birth, the judge said, his parental status is that of “mother.” The decision is wrong on many levels—and the case has made me think about the multifaceted interplay of parental identities and gender.

Rainbow

Rainbows Are Made of Visible Light: A Post for National Coming Out Day

Today is National Coming Out Day. This year, it falls just days after the U.S. Supreme Court heard arguments in a case that could deny employment protections to LGBTQ people and force many of us back into the closet in order to keep supporting our families. As many of us queer parents know from personal experience, coming out is not just a simple matter of finding the courage, but of balancing our needs and those of our children.

Playing with Pronouns

New Kids’ Card Deck Encourages “Playing with Pronouns”

A new educational card deck created by Pura Belpré Honor Award winner Maya Gonzalez and Matthew Smith-Gonzalez is designed to counter gender stereotypes and offer kids an opportunity for self expression—all through a variety of fun games!

LGBTQ Parenting Roundup

LGBTQ Parenting Roundup: Longform Edition

This roundup is full of thoughtful, mostly longer pieces, including ones about being lesbian, bisexual, and nonbinary parents, and coming out after a heterosexual marriage and kids. Come have a read!

Tulip bouquets

Mother’s Day as an Act of Resistance

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be fraught times for LGBTQ parents and our children, seemingly designed to underscore that our families are different. I try to see them, however, as opportunities to remind the world that queer families exist. By raising our voices on these days—or sometimes, simply being visible—we resist the attempts of those trying to ignore or eliminate us, and we welcome all who take on the mantle of parenthood.

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