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Post of the Week: “Imposter … or Not”

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Many of us have been there. As we grow our families, we realize we can no longer hide . . . the fact that we drive a minivan. Betsy of Turkey Baster and a Bottle of Wine wrote recently of overcoming her own internalized vanophobia in “Imposter . . . or not.”

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Post of the Week: “Mom, am I gay?”

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That Neat Blog’s “Mom, am I gay?” post was an easy choice for my Post of the Week. It’s about a straight mom’s response to her five-year-old son’s question — but the topic of talking with kids about being gay seems relevant to many of us.

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Post of the Week: “What do you call your moms?”

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Emma Tattenbaum-Fine has two moms, and recently tackled the age-old question of “What do you call your moms?”

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Post of the Week: “Community Means a Lot of Things”

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I read “Community Means a Lot of Things” at Outrunning the Storm and knew it had to be a Post of the Week. The author writes of trying to find a supportive community and role models for her son, who is autistic, and the parallels with her experience as a lesbian.

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Post of the Week: “My Favorite Way to Wake Up”

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We often talk about “unconditional love” when it comes to our children. Most often, I think, we use it to describe our feelings as parents towards them. At Puffer and the Baby Fish, however, Pufferfish recently wrote about “My Favorite Way to Wake Up,” which illustrates what unconditional love can look like when it comes from a child. If it doesn’t bring a smile to your face, check your pulse.

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Post of the Week: “Equality In Schools?” by a Teacher and Lesbian Mom-to-Be

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I often write about schools and education, but mostly from the perspective of parents or students. Debbie of A Day Is Short is a teacher, however, and wrote yesterday of her experience coming out to her third-grade class, in the context of her pregnancy and impending parenthood. It’s a raw, emotional post about the struggle of trying to be honest with her students while facing the fear of homophobia.

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Post of the Week: “One Little Word 2013 — Manifesto”

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Wendy and Karen have been blogging at 2 Moms – It can be done since 2006. I liked Wendy’s recent post, “One Little Word 2013 — Manifesto,” because it not only gave me a glimpse into her own life, but also made me think about my own goals for the new year in a different way.

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Post of the Week: “Non-Biological Perspective”

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New mom A wrote this week at Two Mothers McGill about her “Non-Biological Perspective” before, during, and after the birth of her daughter with partner T. She gives voices to feelings I’ve heard from many nonbio moms—worrying if she will bond with their child, being hurt by others’ comments about how much the baby is like her partner, thinking about when their daughter will someday meet her donor. Even if you’ve experienced or read about similar sentiments before, however, you should go read her post for the eloquence with which she expresses them.

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Post of the Week: “Stereotypically Dysfunctional”

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I’m taking this week’s pick from the great new blog The Gay Dad Project, founded by Amie, Erin, and Jared, who were each born to opposite-sex parents and had their dads come out to them later in life. In these days of Modern Family and The New Normal, it’s easy to forget that not all LGBT families are LGBT families from the start—and that some people have both LGBT and non-LGBT parents.

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Post of the Week: “A Den of Mothers”

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This week’s pick isn’t from the perspective usually found here, of a mother. Instead, writer Felix Jay at Elixher tells us of the importance of mothers in the broad sense, and how finding “a den of mothers” helped her in her coming out process. It’s a great piece that speaks to the importance of sharing wisdom across the generations.

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Post of the Week: “Boi Life: Motherhood”

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In “Boi Life: Motherhood,” Lyric of Bklyn Boihood writes of being a “masculine female” who wants to have a child through pregnancy.

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Post of the Week: “Lessons from Infertility”

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Aleia Mims’ “Lessons from Infertility,” part of her “Authentically Me” series at her blog l.i.b.e.r.a.t.i.o.n. theory, is this week’s Post of the Week. She writes about her journey from comfort with not being a bio mom, to wanting to conceive with her wife, to her disappointment at not being able to do so.

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Posts of the Week: “Car Musings” and “The (Un-) Zen of Non-Gestational Parenthood”

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Please welcome to the blogosphere Charlotte and Betsy, who recently launched one of the best-titled blogs I’ve seen in a while: Turkey Baster and Bottle of Wine. Their subtitle clarifies: “On being a queer, non-gestational parent.”

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Post of the Week: “Go the $%*! to Sleep!”

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Kirsten of I Have Two Mommies gets the Post of the Week spot for her “Go the $%*! to Sleep!” post about—well, if you’ve had an infant, you know. I also liked her post for the small lesbian-specific detail, however.

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Post of the Week: Family Discoveries

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I was amused and touched by the summer travel wisdom over at Are You the Babysitter?, making her “Family Discoveries” my Post of the Week.

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Post of the Week: “Macy Has Two Grandmothers”

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This lovely post from Coming Out At Midlife was submitted as part of Blogging for LGBT Families Day. It reminds me that LGBT families are more than just parent(s) and kid(s); they are grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins; grandchildren, nieces, and nephews.

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Post of the Week: “Flip Flop”

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In “Flip Flop,” Kathryn at Recovering Straight Girl gives us her thoughts on why changing one’s perspective is not necessarily a bad thing. She says people are wrong to criticize President Obama for “flip-flopping” on the issue of marriage equality.

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Post of the Week: “What’s In a Name?”

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Lauren and Sarah of Two Brides to Two Mummies ask “What’s In a Name?”

Like the Bard who first posed that question, they live in England. They are hoping to add a child to their home in Birmingham, and are planning to marry (legally, have a civil partnership) next year. While their post is not about parenting specifically, it raises an issue that I think many lesbian couples ponder, especially if they are considering children: Do you choose a common last name, and if so, what?

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Post of the Week: “We’re not pregnant yet…but”

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In “We’re not pregnant yet…but,” Kari talks about the intertwined processes of coming out and deciding to become a parent.

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Post of the Week: “Or at Least an Auntie Tata”

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This week’s selection, “Or at Least an Auntie Tata” comes from Kristin at Mondays with Mac, and is a paean to extended family.

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Post of the Week:”(An)Other Mother”

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This week’s pick, “(An)Other Mother,” comes from Partner A at Cats and Cradles. In it, she reflects on life as a non-gestational mother, a term she prefers to “non-biological mother.” Now, posts about being a non-gestational/non-biological mother are not uncommon. Heck, there are whole blogs and even whole books on the topic. But Partner A offers some wonderful insights to add to the conversation.

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Post of the Week: “Breathing Room”

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This week’s selection, “Breathing Room,” comes from Lyn, who blogs with her partner Gail at First Time, Second Time. Lyn and Gail are both mathematicians, fell in love at Math Camp, and seem to favor the number two. They describe themselves as “two lesbian moms who created an intentional family via donor conception. We’ve both given birth, both been NGP’s (non-gestational parents), both nursed, both worked for pay, and both stayed at home with kids.”

I chose “Breathing Room” because it shines a light on one of the less-discussed transitions of family life, when children leave early childhood and parents are able to take a little more time for themselves and each other.

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Post of the Week: “Pregnancy Changes Things”

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This week’s highlighted post, “Pregnancy Changes Things,” comes from Yin of Living a Loving Life as Wife and Wife. She talks about how pregnancy has changed her relationships with her partner, her mother, and her friends. It’s a quiet reflection on changes that I’m guessing many others have felt, too.

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Post of the Week: “Parenting without gender expectations means accepting all outcomes”

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Once again, it’s time to highlighting a post from an independent parenting blogger that has especially caught my eye. This week, it’s “Parenting without gender expectations means accepting all outcomes,” from Aly Windsor, who is parenting two kids with her partner and just started blogging at Embrace Release.

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Post of the Week: “Wise Beyond Her Years”

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I’m starting a new feature here at Mombian, highlighting some of the posts from independent parenting bloggers that have especially caught my eye. I’ll keep the more “newsy” items in my LGBT Parenting Roundups—what I want to feature here are more personal posts about our lives as parents and LGBT people.

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