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Married Same-Sex Couples More Likely to Have Kids

Same-sex Families

A new study has found that married same-sex couples in the U.S. are almost twice as likely to be raising kids as unmarried ones. Same-sex couples are also nearly three times as likely as their different-sex counterparts to be raising adopted or foster kids. Among married couples, that difference rises to five times.


Genetic Ties for Both Same-Sex Parents? Not for Moms

Egg and sperm

It’s been all over the news for the past few days: a discovery that within two years, could allow “same-sex parents” to both be genetically connected to their child. Most news outlets have neglected to mention one small fact, however: It will likely only work for two dads, not two moms.


Watch: Story of One of First Gay Men to Adopt in U.S.

Bill Jones

NPR’s excellent StoryCorps program last week ran a segment on Bill Jones, one of the first single men–and gay men–to adopt a child in the U.S. There’s even more to know about this pioneering gay dad, however.


Help Create Guide for Kids Born Through Assisted Reproductive Technologies


Help COLAGE, the national organization for those with LGBTQ parents, create a guide for youth and young adults born through assisted reproductive technologies (ART).


Martina Navratilova and Her Stepchildren

Martina Navratilova and Julia Lemigova

Tennis legend Martina Navratilova married her partner Julia Lemigova several weeks ago. Only a few media outlets that covered their wedding noted Lemigova’s two daughters from a previous relationship, Navratilova’s stepchildren. Let’s take a look.


Two Moms Welcome One of 1st Babies of 2015

Two moms had the first baby in their county and one of the first in the nation this year.


Now Available: Picture Book for Donor-Conceived Kids of Two Moms

Zak's Safari

I wrote at the beginning of November about an effort to publish Zak’s Safari: A Story about Donor-Conceived Kids of Two-Mom Families, a book for and about donor-conceived kids of two moms. I’m happy to report that (perhaps thanks to many of you) it’s been funded and the book is now available on Amazon.


Androgynous Maternity Clothing for Butches and Others

Butch Baby

Three years ago, a reader asked, “Where can you find pregnant butch clothing?” and many of you offered your home-grown ideas. Now, one company — founded by two butches — hopes to fill this need, with “The first androgynous maternity line for queer individuals.”


Stories of LGBTQ Adoptive Families

LGBTQ Families

For National Adoption Month, here are a few great sources of stories about LGBTQ adoptive families, to go along with the more practical resources I posted earlier.


Join Us Tuesday for a National Adoption Month Twitter Chat!


It’s National Adoption Month, and this Tuesday, HRC Foundation will host a Twitter chat focusing on the opportunities for the LGBT community to adopt children in the U.S. foster care system. I’m co-facilitating, and hope you’ll join us!


New Picture Book for Donor-Conceived Kids of Two Moms

Zak's Safari

If you’re part of a two-mom family, like mine, that had kids through donor insemination, you may have had trouble finding books that explain to your young children how they came to be. A new Kickstarter project hopes to add to that small list.


8 Adoption Resources for LGBT Parents

National Adoption Month

November is National Adoption Month, so I thought I’d kick things off with a few resources for those just beginning their parenting journey.


Most Lesbian Moms Satisfied with Type of Sperm Donor

Egg and sperm

The majority of lesbian moms who conceived through donor insemination are satisfied with their choice of a known, unknown, or open-identity (child may contact when 18) donor, according to new research based on the National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS), the longest-running and largest study of U.S. lesbian families.


Mistaken Sperm, Harmful Racism


As a mother who used a sperm bank to start my family, and as someone who works in my day job for a program that addresses racial inequities, among others, I feel compelled to write about a disconcerting lawsuit that has been making headlines: That of a lesbian mother suing a sperm bank for sending her the wrong sperm — something she discovered only after she was pregnant. The added complication is that much of the lawsuit revolves around the fact that the donor is Black, while she and her partner are White, and had chosen a White donor.


Help Foster Change for LGBTQ Foster Youth

LGBTQ Foster Youth

A new study has found that one in five foster youth in Los Angeles are LGBTQ — which means they are over-represented compared to LGBTQ youth in the general population. They’re also twice as likely to report being treated poorly and twice as likely to live in a group facility compared to non-LGBTQ youth. But a bold project is working on a new model of caring for LGBTQ foster youth, in L.A. and across the country — and it needs your help.


Gay Congressman’s 1st Daughter “Far More Thrilling” Than Fireworks


A very many congratulations to the U.S. Rep. from Colorado, Jared Polis, who welcomed his first daughter (and second child) with partner Marlon Reis. Polis told the Denver Post that although he was missing the July 4th fireworks for the first time in his life, “my first daughter is far more thrilling.” The couple already […]


Pregnant LGBQ Women Wanted for Study on Postpartum Well-Being


One of the social scientists I (and many others) cite often when it comes to LGBQ parents and our kids is Dr. Abbie Goldberg of Clark University. She’s conducting a new study on postpartum well-being in sexual minority women, and is looking for pregnant women partnered with other women. Know any (including yourself)? Read on.


Mommy Man: It Takes a Village to Create a Child

Jerry Mahoney’s “Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad,” is a wonderful addition to the growing genre of LGBT parenting memoirs, not only because of its sharp writing and smart humor, but because it shows us an aspect of LGBT parenting we haven’t seen in a book-length memoir before—two men pursuing parenthood through gestational surrogacy.


Stories of Foster Families Offer Many Perspectives


May is National Foster Care Month, and I’ve been enjoying many of the recent stories of foster families at RaiseAChild.US. Read on for links to their tales and to other information resources for LGBTQ foster families.


From Coast to Coast, Changing Laws to Protect Our Families


A new law in Washington, D.C. is drawing lesbian couples from other jurisdictions to give birth there — and a bill making its way through the California legislature could simplify the paperwork and clarify parenting arrangements for same-sex couples in that state.


New Study Aims to Shed Light on Donor Families


Many people, LGBTQ and not, have used donor eggs, sperm, or embryos to create their families. I did. A new study by a researcher I have admired for years seeks to understand the experiences of these families — and if you’re part of one, she needs your help.


Is That Question Rude?


Many of us LGBT parents have had someone ask us a rude question about our families, starting with the classic fumble, “Who’s the real mom?” Two recent videos — one funny, one clever — offer advice for helping people determine if a question about someone’s family or self is offensive.


Classic Film About Lesbian Mothers Now on DVD

Debra Chasnoff and Kim Klausner in the editing room in the early 1980s. Photo credit: Ellen Shub

The Fosters, ABC Family’s drama about two moms raising their five children, ended its very successful first season at the end of March. But The Fosters — and many real-life two-mom families — owe a debt of gratitude to a film that premiered 30 years ago and is now newly remastered and available on DVD: Choosing Children, the first documentary to look at lesbians who became parents after coming out.


Moses Has Two Mommies


Tonight is the first night of Passover, when Jews around the world gather to celebrate freedom from slavery in Egypt, under the leadership of a man who had two mommies.


Audre Lorde on Family

Audre Lorde, self-described “black, lesbian, mother, warrior, poet,” would have turned 80 this week had cancer not taken her in 1992. Here’s what she said about family in 1975.