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Mistaken Sperm, Harmful Racism

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As a mother who used a sperm bank to start my family, and as someone who works in my day job for a program that addresses racial inequities, among others, I feel compelled to write about a disconcerting lawsuit that has been making headlines: That of a lesbian mother suing a sperm bank for sending her the wrong sperm — something she discovered only after she was pregnant. The added complication is that much of the lawsuit revolves around the fact that the donor is Black, while she and her partner are White, and had chosen a White donor.

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Help Foster Change for LGBTQ Foster Youth

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A new study has found that one in five foster youth in Los Angeles are LGBTQ — which means they are over-represented compared to LGBTQ youth in the general population. They’re also twice as likely to report being treated poorly and twice as likely to live in a group facility compared to non-LGBTQ youth. But a bold project is working on a new model of caring for LGBTQ foster youth, in L.A. and across the country — and it needs your help.

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Gay Congressman’s 1st Daughter “Far More Thrilling” Than Fireworks

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A very many congratulations to the U.S. Rep. from Colorado, Jared Polis, who welcomed his first daughter (and second child) with partner Marlon Reis. Polis told the Denver Post that although he was missing the July 4th fireworks for the first time in his life, “my first daughter is far more thrilling.” The couple already […]

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Pregnant LGBQ Women Wanted for Study on Postpartum Well-Being

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One of the social scientists I (and many others) cite often when it comes to LGBQ parents and our kids is Dr. Abbie Goldberg of Clark University. She’s conducting a new study on postpartum well-being in sexual minority women, and is looking for pregnant women partnered with other women. Know any (including yourself)? Read on.

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Mommy Man: It Takes a Village to Create a Child

Jerry Mahoney’s “Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad,” is a wonderful addition to the growing genre of LGBT parenting memoirs, not only because of its sharp writing and smart humor, but because it shows us an aspect of LGBT parenting we haven’t seen in a book-length memoir before—two men pursuing parenthood through gestational surrogacy.

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Stories of Foster Families Offer Many Perspectives

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May is National Foster Care Month, and I’ve been enjoying many of the recent stories of foster families at RaiseAChild.US. Read on for links to their tales and to other information resources for LGBTQ foster families.

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From Coast to Coast, Changing Laws to Protect Our Families

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A new law in Washington, D.C. is drawing lesbian couples from other jurisdictions to give birth there — and a bill making its way through the California legislature could simplify the paperwork and clarify parenting arrangements for same-sex couples in that state.

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New Study Aims to Shed Light on Donor Families

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Many people, LGBTQ and not, have used donor eggs, sperm, or embryos to create their families. I did. A new study by a researcher I have admired for years seeks to understand the experiences of these families — and if you’re part of one, she needs your help.

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Is That Question Rude?

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Many of us LGBT parents have had someone ask us a rude question about our families, starting with the classic fumble, “Who’s the real mom?” Two recent videos — one funny, one clever — offer advice for helping people determine if a question about someone’s family or self is offensive.

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Classic Film About Lesbian Mothers Now on DVD

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The Fosters, ABC Family’s drama about two moms raising their five children, ended its very successful first season at the end of March. But The Fosters — and many real-life two-mom families — owe a debt of gratitude to a film that premiered 30 years ago and is now newly remastered and available on DVD: Choosing Children, the first documentary to look at lesbians who became parents after coming out.

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Moses Has Two Mommies

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Tonight is the first night of Passover, when Jews around the world gather to celebrate freedom from slavery in Egypt, under the leadership of a man who had two mommies.

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Audre Lorde on Family

Audre Lorde, self-described “black, lesbian, mother, warrior, poet,” would have turned 80 this week had cancer not taken her in 1992. Here’s what she said about family in 1975.

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Melissa Harris-Perry Credits Gay Dads for Her Path to Parenthood Via Surrogacy

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MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry had her second child on Valentine’s Day last week — surprising many viewers of her show because she wasn’t “visibly pregnant.” She gave birth to her first child in 2002, but had her uterus removed in 2008 after suffering from uterine fibroids. She credits “a dear friend and his husband,” who had their child by surrogacy, for suggesting that she do the same.

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Second-Parent Adoptions Ruled Legal in Idaho

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Great news from Idaho this morning: The state Supreme Court ruled yesterday that a person can petition to do a second-parent adoption of another’s child, even if the two adults are not married.

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Vancouver Baby First in Province to Have Three Legal Parents

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A baby born in Vancouver, British Columbia, is the first to have three legal parents on her birth certificate under the province’s new law.

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1978 Comic Shows Lesbian Trying to Get Pregnant

I’m always fond of showing just how far back the history of LGBT parents goes. Here’s a fun historical find, then: a comic from 1978 (that’s 36 years ago!) telling the story of a lesbian trying to get pregnant.

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How to Contact Your Sperm Donor

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If you created your family like I did, using an unknown sperm donor, what do you do if your child one day says she or he wants to contact him? The authors of a new book for donor-conceived people and their families offer some helpful hints.

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Israeli Proposal Could Equalize Surrogacy for Same-Sex Parents

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Continuing the international theme from yesterday: Israeli Health Minister Yael German has accepted a committee’s recommendations to equalize surrogacy laws for same-sex and different-sex couples as well as single people.

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Post of the Week: “It’s National Adoption Week: Be kind to yourselves!”

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The Post of the Week for National Adoption Week comes from Jemma of Two Mums. Two Kids?, who reminds us of a very important part of the adoption process.

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TV Alert: 7:30 p.m. ET Tonight — Al Jazeera America on LGBT Families and Adoption

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A breaking TV alert: Al Jazeera America will be doing a segment tonight at 7:30 p.m. ET on LGBT families and adoption. One of their three guests is affiliated with the anti-LGBT National Organization for Marriage. The Family Equality Council, the national organization supporting LGBT families, is asking people to offer their perspectives through the online video comments and Twitter conversation about the show.

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“Growing Up Gayby” Premiering Next Week in Australia

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Next Wednesday (Nov. 20), the Australian Broadcasting Corporation (ABC) will premiere the documentary “Growing Up Gayby,” which follows a filmmaker with lesbian moms as she herself interviews “a slew of ‘gaybies’” and right-wing pundits “in an attempt to make sense of what ‘family’ is in the 21st century.”

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Adoptive Lesbian Moms: “We know what it’s like to be different”

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Adoptive lesbian moms Bianca Monreal and Tonie Alfonso, profiled at HuffPo, said that they believe gay people are particularly suited to be adoptive parents.

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Be an Ally for Adoption!

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November is National Adoption Month, and the Family Equality Council has launched the “Allies for Adoption” campaign to raise awareness of a very simple thing we could do to help more children in foster care find forever homes: remove the barriers that prevent qualified LGBT people from adopting children.

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“The Call” Video About Adoption Will Bring Tears to Your Eyes

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This touching new video from the Family Equality Council’s “Allies for Adoption” campaign is the most poignant thing I’ve seen online in quite some time. Anyone who has ever waited for that call from an adoption agency should be able to relate.

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Needles, New Jersey, and New Families

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There’s a recent AP news story going around about a “new twist” on baby making for two-mom couples. Thing is, it’s not so new — it’s the method my spouse and I used 11 years ago to start our family, with her carrying an embryo made from my egg and donor sperm. It seemed doubly appropriate to mention it again today because we started our family in New Jersey — and as of yesterday, same-sex couples in New Jersey can legally wed. We’re happy to be celebrating as former New Jerseyans.

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