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New Study on Children of Same-Sex Parents “Hugely Flawed”


A new study purports to show that the children of same-sex parents have far greater emotional problems than those with different-sex parents–but the study comes from a professor who is a fellow of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute, a project of the Family Research Council, which has been designated an anti-LGBT hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center.


New Portal for Research on Lesbian and Gay Parenting

What We Know

What if all the best scholarly research about children with lesbian or gay parents was gathered into a single online portal? The “What We Know” project has done just that, and will likely become a key reference for policymakers, journalists, researchers, and the public.


A Mother’s Journey as “Reluctant Outlier”


Here’s a great read to start your week. Alysia Abbott writes about how raising her son, who is autistic, relates to her experience growing up with her gay dad and being part of “an outlier community” in both cases.


No Surprise: Kids of Transgender Parents Doing Well


Shortly after a transgender woman was named “Working Mother of the Year” by Working Mother magazine, a new report finds — not surprisingly — that the children of transgender parents are doing well.


Post of the Week: “If the shoe fits…” — On Kids and Gender Expression

Post of the Week - Mombian

Halloween often brings up the topic of kids and gender expression, so I thought I’d highlight a recent post from Pajamamamas about navigating her almost-six-year-old son’s shoe choices.


12-Year-Old with Two Moms Makes Film About Bullying

Equation of Life

Gerry Orz is a 12-year-old living with his two moms and older brother. He’s just made a short film about a boy with two moms who is bullied by a classmate — a reflection of his own experience. This is the second such film he’s made — the first was when he was only nine! Watch a trailer and learn more about his ongoing activism.


Help Foster Change for LGBTQ Foster Youth

LGBTQ Foster Youth

A new study has found that one in five foster youth in Los Angeles are LGBTQ — which means they are over-represented compared to LGBTQ youth in the general population. They’re also twice as likely to report being treated poorly and twice as likely to live in a group facility compared to non-LGBTQ youth. But a bold project is working on a new model of caring for LGBTQ foster youth, in L.A. and across the country — and it needs your help.


Back-to-School ABCs for LGBTQs


My son is about to start middle school. I’m excited to shop for school supplies with him and thrilled that he’s growing and learning — but like many parents, I also wonder what the school year will have in store for him.


LGB Families: What We Know and What We Don’t

LGBT Families

A recent report from UCLA’s Williams Institute on the state of research about LGB families not only reiterates that our children are doing as well as anyone else’s, but also offers some lesser-known insights about the composition and strengths of our families — and gives thoughtful suggestions for the direction of future research.


Looking Back from a Milestone


My son finished elementary school this month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with the casual coolness of which 11-year-olds seem capable), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders.


Watch: Mother Tells Story of Her Transgender Daughter


This video of Debi Jackson, a self-proclaimed “conservative Southern Baptist Republican from Alabama,” talking about her six-year-old transgender daughter, will bring tears of happiness to your eyes.


Study Shows Children of Same-Sex Parents Still Doing Fine


A major academic study from Australia has shown that the children of same-sex attracted parents are doing as well as, if not better than, their peers in the general population on several key measures of health and well-being.


Watch: This Is What Accepting Our Children Looks Like

From the time he could talk, the Whittington family’s child Ryland insisted he was a boy, even though his parents initially thought he was a girl. Their support of his true identity is a heartwarming and inspiring story for all parents.


Conservative Southern Baptist Republican Mom Supports Her Transgender Child


If you read just one post this week, make it “The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter,” by Debi Jackson, a self-described “conservative Southern Baptist Republican from Alabama.”


Discredited Researcher Testifies Against Same-Sex Parents


Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin testified this week in a federal case to determine whether same-sex couples can adopt and/or marry in Michigan. The bad news? He’s a thoroughly discredited researcher whose work was backed by money from religious conservatives. Or maybe that’s the good news.


Study: Children from Intact Two-Mom Families Have Higher Self-esteem, Fewer Conduct Problems than Those from Intact Mom-Dad ones


A new study has found that adolescents with lesbian moms had higher levels of self-esteem and lower levels of conduct problems compared with peers in families that have a mom and a dad. Importantly, this is the first study to compare adolescent–parent relationships and well-being in families where the parents — both lesbian and straight — were all continuously coupled. This is key to combating some of the apples-to-oranges comparisons that have plagued right-wing analyses of lesbian and gay parenting — and seems perfectly timed to help fight a federal case that starts today.


Breastfeeding: One Lesbian Mom’s Experience


Whether you’ve breast fed, bottle fed, or adopted kids after they were weaned, you should go read “Failing at Feeding” over at Brain, Child. In it, writer Paige Schilt offers some excellent thoughts on maternal stereotypes and expectations, being the lone lesbian in a mothers’ support group, and the physical and emotional toll of having difficulties with breastfeeding.


Grown Children of Lesbian Moms Talk About Their Moms


Two pieces caught my eye this week that take a nuanced and unflinching look at the challenges and joys of having lesbian moms. Personally, I love reading pieces by grown children of LGBT parents. It’s useful to read things by other LGBT parents, of course — but the perspectives of those who have LGBT parents help me better understand how my son might view certain things in his world as he grows up. (Not that everyone who has LGBT parents will think the same — but they help me realize some of the possibilities.)


The First Time a Child Asked My Son “Where’s Your Dad?”


I have a new post up at HuffPo that I hope you’ll pop over and read (and please “Like” it over there if you enjoy it): “In the Sandbox.” It’s a revised version of an old piece from when my son was younger, describing the first time another child asked him, “Where’s your dad?”


Think Kids Don’t Understand Marriage Equality? Think Again


Think kids will be “confused” or harmed by learning that same-sex couples can marry? Think again. This delightful video from The Fine Bros “Kids React” series shows children ages 5 to 13 responding to viral videos of marriage proposals of same-sex couples — and clearly, most of them are not only okay with it, but excited for the couples. They give me hope for the future.


Kids with Two Moms Score Higher in Citizenship, Study Finds


Dutch pre-teen children raised by two moms scored higher on “core principles of democratic citizenship” than their peers with different-sex parents, according to a new study. But is the takeaway that children with two moms are better citizens? I don’t think so.


New Study: How Children of Gay and Lesbian Parents Overcome Stigma


A new study looks at how children of gay and lesbian parents — parents who came out after their kids were born — overcome stigma and create a positive family identity. While most of the messages they heard about their families were negative, the children used a variety of methods to minimize the impact of such messages.


2 Great Examples of Parents Supporting Gender Nonconforming Children


Two recent stories show parents supporting their gender nonconforming children in pretty awesome ways. One will infuriate you with the bias the mom and her child had to face; both will inspire you with the strength of the moms.


A Gay Dad Explains Why He Doesn’t Like the Phrase “Motherless Parenting”


From the “how could I have missed this” files: While studies show [and they do] that children with same-sex parents are just as well-adjusted as those with different-sex parents, they might lead us to overlook the full experience of adopted children, wrote Frank Ligtvoet in the New York Times a few weeks back. Ligtvoet, a gay dad with two adopted children, reminds us that “motherless parenting is a misnomer.”


Study: Parents’ Relationship More Important to Kids’ Development than Sexual Orientation

Charlotte Patterson

A second study published within the past week has concluded that how adoptive parents relate to each other is more important to their children’s development than their sexual orientation is.