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Looking Back from a Milestone

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My son finished elementary school this month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with the casual coolness of which 11-year-olds seem capable), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders.

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Watch: Mother Tells Story of Her Transgender Daughter

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This video of Debi Jackson, a self-proclaimed “conservative Southern Baptist Republican from Alabama,” talking about her six-year-old transgender daughter, will bring tears of happiness to your eyes.

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Gay Congressman’s 1st Daughter “Far More Thrilling” Than Fireworks

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A very many congratulations to the U.S. Rep. from Colorado, Jared Polis, who welcomed his first daughter (and second child) with partner Marlon Reis. Polis told the Denver Post that although he was missing the July 4th fireworks for the first time in his life, “my first daughter is far more thrilling.” The couple already […]

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Study Shows Children of Same-Sex Parents Still Doing Fine

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A major academic study from Australia has shown that the children of same-sex attracted parents are doing as well as, if not better than, their peers in the general population on several key measures of health and well-being.

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LGBT Parenting Roundup

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Here are a few items from the last half of Pride Month that I haven’t covered elsewhere, including a piece by the son of the California marriage equality lead plaintiffs.

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Pregnant LGBQ Women Wanted for Study on Postpartum Well-Being

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One of the social scientists I (and many others) cite often when it comes to LGBQ parents and our kids is Dr. Abbie Goldberg of Clark University. She’s conducting a new study on postpartum well-being in sexual minority women, and is looking for pregnant women partnered with other women. Know any (including yourself)? Read on.

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Mommy Man: It Takes a Village to Create a Child

Jerry Mahoney’s “Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad,” is a wonderful addition to the growing genre of LGBT parenting memoirs, not only because of its sharp writing and smart humor, but because it shows us an aspect of LGBT parenting we haven’t seen in a book-length memoir before—two men pursuing parenthood through gestational surrogacy.

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Grandmothers (also an Olympic Medalist and Fashion Entrepreneur) Reflect on Marriage Equality

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Olympic medalist and financial executive Gail Marquis and her spouse, entrepreneur and fashion commentator Audrey Smaltz, spoke recently with MSNBC about marriage equality, their own relationship, and their granddaughter.

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Another School Shooting: When Will We Have Had Enough?

My thoughts go out today to the community of Troutdale, Oregon, where a student and a suspected shooter are both dead after the later opened fire at Reynolds High School. When 27 people died after a school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut two years ago, ABC News reported that there had been 31 school shootings since the one in Columbine, Colorado in 1999. Now, we learn that there have been 74 school shootings since Newtown. How many is too many?

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Watch: This Is What Accepting Our Children Looks Like

From the time he could talk, the Whittington family’s child Ryland insisted he was a boy, even though his parents initially thought he was a girl. Their support of his true identity is a heartwarming and inspiring story for all parents.

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LGBTQ Parenting Roundup

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While we’ve been gearing up for and winding down from Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day, lots of things have been in the news related to LGBTQ families. Let’s round them up!

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Stories of Foster Families Offer Many Perspectives

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May is National Foster Care Month, and I’ve been enjoying many of the recent stories of foster families at RaiseAChild.US. Read on for links to their tales and to other information resources for LGBTQ foster families.

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Parenting Changes Gay Dads’ Brain Activity: Does It Matter?

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A new study shows that having a child triggers changes in a mother’s brain — and that becoming a parent via surrogacy can trigger changes in a gay man’s brain, too. Interestingly, the gay men’s pattern of brain activity “resembles that of both new mothers and new fathers,” reports Reuters. The article speculates that the research “could feed into the debate over whether gay men should be allowed to adopt children.” As fascinating as the findings may be, I rather hope they’re not used in the adoption argument.

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From Coast to Coast, Changing Laws to Protect Our Families

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A new law in Washington, D.C. is drawing lesbian couples from other jurisdictions to give birth there — and a bill making its way through the California legislature could simplify the paperwork and clarify parenting arrangements for same-sex couples in that state.

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New Study Aims to Shed Light on Donor Families

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Many people, LGBTQ and not, have used donor eggs, sperm, or embryos to create their families. I did. A new study by a researcher I have admired for years seeks to understand the experiences of these families — and if you’re part of one, she needs your help.

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LGBT Parenting Roundup

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Let’s set aside the obvious political stories for a moment to take a look at some other LGBT parenting news, including a few family profiles, entertainment news, and penguins. Seriously, with all these stories, the penguin should be adopted as the mascot for LGB parents.

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Conservative Southern Baptist Republican Mom Supports Her Transgender Child

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If you read just one post this week, make it “The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter,” by Debi Jackson, a self-described “conservative Southern Baptist Republican from Alabama.”

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What We Did on Mother’s Day

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When I spoke at HuffPo Live last week, the interviewer asked what our son did for us on Mother’s Day. What he does is only part of our family celebration, however. Here’s what our whole day looked like this year.

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An Open Letter of Appreciation to LGBTQ-Friendly Teachers

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It’s Teacher Appreciation Week, so here’s an open letter to all of the many LGBTQ-inclusive and welcoming teachers out there.

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Radical Relations: A History of Lesbian and Gay Parents

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The history of out lesbian and gay parents started decades before the term “gayby boom” was coined in 1990. A new book charts that history—so of course I had to review it.

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6 Things I Am Grateful for on a Monday

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Mondays can be rough, especially if you’re like me and not a morning person. I find it helps me to get moving, though, if I think about some of the things for which I’m grateful. Here’s today’s list, in no particular order.

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Is That Question Rude?

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Many of us LGBT parents have had someone ask us a rude question about our families, starting with the classic fumble, “Who’s the real mom?” Two recent videos — one funny, one clever — offer advice for helping people determine if a question about someone’s family or self is offensive.

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On Tragedy and Remembrance

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(This was originally published last week as my Mombian newspaper column.)

A safe and successful Boston Marathon one year from the one that broke all our hearts.

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Two New Sites for Gay Dads

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Two new sites for and about gay dads have launched recently. Whether you identify as a dad or not, check them out!

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LGBT Parenting Roundup

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Here are a few items I haven’t mentioned elsewhere, including a blended family profile, the perspective of the teen daughter of plaintiffs in a marriage equality lawsuit, two happenings in New Zealand, and the Argentinian president honoring a lesbian couple at their child’s Roman Catholic baptism.

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