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What Do Kids Call their Same-Sex Parents?


Chances are, if you’re a parent in a same-sex relationship, you’ve been asked “What do your kids call you?” If you’re a prospective parent, you may have asked it of yourself. Sometimes it’s for informational purposes—as when a teacher needs to know how to refer to you—sometimes it’s just nosy, as if the person can’t imagine how having two moms doesn’t confuse a kid. Here’s what I’ve discovered—with help from many of you.


New Portal for Research on Lesbian and Gay Parenting

What We Know

What if all the best scholarly research about children with lesbian or gay parents was gathered into a single online portal? The “What We Know” project has done just that, and will likely become a key reference for policymakers, journalists, researchers, and the public.


Is Queer-Inclusive Similac Ad Still Exclusive?

Similac - The Mother 'Hood

On the face of it, Similac’s new ad, “The Mother ‘Hood,” is one of the most queer-inclusive ads I’ve seen recently, with both two-dad and two-mom families, including women who are rocking a clearly queer aesthetic. But does it exclude as well?


LGBTQ Parenting Roundup

LGBTQ Parenting Roundup

A few LGBTQ parenting stories from round and about that I haven’t mentioned yet here.


20/20 to Feature Transgender Couple and their Kids Tonight


ABC News’ 20/20 tonight will feature the story of Nick and Bianca Bowser, a transgender couple raising their sons in Louisville, Kentucky.


Martina Navratilova and Her Stepchildren

Martina Navratilova and Julia Lemigova

Tennis legend Martina Navratilova married her partner Julia Lemigova several weeks ago. Only a few media outlets that covered their wedding noted Lemigova’s two daughters from a previous relationship, Navratilova’s stepchildren. Let’s take a look.


Nikon Campaign Features Gay Dads

Nikon - Kordale and Kaleb

Nikon USA has featured gay dads Kordale and Kaleb–whose photo about doing their daughters’ hair went viral last year–as part of a new marketing campaign.


NOH8 Photo Features Two Moms Breastfeeding

NoH8 -

A recently posted photo for the NOH8 campaign features two moms breastfeeding their 18-month-old baby. One article, however, misses the point that both moms—biological and nonbiological—are of equal value as parents.


A Mother’s Journey as “Reluctant Outlier”


Here’s a great read to start your week. Alysia Abbott writes about how raising her son, who is autistic, relates to her experience growing up with her gay dad and being part of “an outlier community” in both cases.


Helping Religious Parents Understand their LGBTQ Children

Caitlin Ryan

Much has been written in the past few weeks about the suicide of transgender teen Leelah Alcorn and her plea that we “fix society” to stop transgender people from dying by suicide. That’s not an easy request, although it is a necessary one. One social worker and researcher has some ideas for addressing at least one part of the problem.


Two Moms Welcome One of 1st Babies of 2015

Two moms had the first baby in their county and one of the first in the nation this year.


3 Sisters Explain Why their Moms Should Be Able to Marry

Kinsey, Jillian, Teagan, and Two Moms

Sisters Kinsey, Jillian, and Teagan live in Kentucky with their two moms. They’ve made a wonderful video about why the U.S. Supreme Court should allow their moms to marry.


Everything Changes: My Mother’s Cancer

In a moment, everything can change. On December 23, my 72-year-old mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to her bones and brain.


LGBTQ Parenting Roundup: Year-End Edition

To close out the year, here’s a roundup of some LGBTQ parenting stories I haven’t yet covered here, including three great pieces about growing up with multiple moms.


Now Available: Picture Book for Donor-Conceived Kids of Two Moms

Zak's Safari

I wrote at the beginning of November about an effort to publish Zak’s Safari: A Story about Donor-Conceived Kids of Two-Mom Families, a book for and about donor-conceived kids of two moms. I’m happy to report that (perhaps thanks to many of you) it’s been funded and the book is now available on Amazon.


Androgynous Maternity Clothing for Butches and Others

Butch Baby

Three years ago, a reader asked, “Where can you find pregnant butch clothing?” and many of you offered your home-grown ideas. Now, one company — founded by two butches — hopes to fill this need, with “The first androgynous maternity line for queer individuals.”


Texas Teen with Two Moms Speaks Out for Marriage Equality

Mason Marriott-Voss

Texas is not the most progressive of states, as most of us know. All the more reason, then, to admire 16-year-old Mason Marriott-Voss, who spoke recently about his two moms to a Freedom to Marry town hall at the LBJ Presidential Library in Austin.


For Hanukkah, Here’s a Funny Jewish Lesbian Mom Talking About Her Family

Dreidels - Hanukkah

A very Happy Hanukkah to all of you starting your celebrations tonight! In honor of the occasion, here’s a very funny video of Jewish comedian and lesbian mom Judy Gold talking about her family.


Does Your State Ban Talk of LGBTQ Issues in Classrooms?

Don't Erase Us

I wrote yesterday about anti-LGBT discrimination in schools — and was happy to learn later about a new campaign to address “no promo homo” laws that forbid discussion of LGBT issues in classrooms.


Anti-LGBT Discrimination in Education, from Preschool On


A new report from the Center for American Progress (CAP) highlights anti-LGBT discrimination in education, from preschool through college.


Boy in Viral Ferguson Photo Has Two Moms

You’ve probably seen the photo: a young Black boy exchanging a tearful hug with a White police officer at a protest about the shooting of a Black teen in Ferguson, Missouri. It was a small moment of hope at an otherwise bleak time. But did you know that the boy, 12-year-old Devonte Hart, has two moms?


Stories of Parents with HIV/AIDS

AIDS Ribbon

Today is World AIDS Day, and it’s worth checking out these sites and writers who are sharing stories of parents with HIV/AIDS, from their own perspectives and those of their children.


AIDS and Children: Progress, but Far Still to Go

AIDS Ribbon

For World AIDS Day today, since so many other LGBT sites are ably covering how HIV/AIDS continues to impact the LGBTQ community, I want instead to highlight once again some statistics about HIV/AIDS and children. There has been a drop in new infections over the last few years, but even so, the numbers are still sobering.


Rainbow Letters Wants Stories of Having LGBTQ Parents

The Rainbow Letters

The Rainbow Letters is a great new project that aims to collect and share the stories of those who have LGBTQ parents.


Stories of LGBTQ Adoptive Families

LGBT Families

For National Adoption Month, here are a few great sources of stories about LGBTQ adoptive families, to go along with the more practical resources I posted earlier.