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Happy New Year!

A joyous 2012 to you and your families! May the year be full of love, happiness, peace, and equality for all.

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Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer Says “It Gets Better”

My last name is the same as that of the famous reindeer. I also have red hair—which meant I was the target of quite a number of  ”Rudolph the Red-Haired Person” jabs when I was a kid. It wasn’t bullying, but it was annoying, until I learned to embrace the difference and just lord it […]

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Families Make the Holidays — and Love Makes a Family

Happy holidays to you and yours from me and mine. Posting will be light here through New Year’s, but I’ll be putting up a few things, so do stop by. In the meantime, please enjoy  ”Love Makes a Family,” a video from Zach Wahls and MoveOn.org, and once again, celebrate the amazing diversity and love of families […]

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To Grandmother’s House We Go: Talking About LGBT Issues at Holiday Time

Visiting relatives (or having them visit) for the holidays? Worried about what will happen when conversation over the roast goose (or latkes) turns political, and you find yourself trying to explain to Aunt Mabel why you and your beloved want an actual, legal, marriage? Or why military readiness hasn’t suffered from the repeal of Don’t […]

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Hanukkah Songs and Miracles

Like many of the Hebraic persuasion, I’ve always felt a little shortchanged when it comes to holiday songs. Radio stations play hours of Christmas carols without repeats, whereas we’re pretty much stuck with “I Had a Little Dreidel” and “Hanukkah, Oh, Hanukkah.” (I know, there are a handful of other traditional tunes, but really, just […]

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Happy Turkey Baster Awareness Day 2011

A very happy Thanksgiving to all of you celebrating it this week. Remember to make the turkey baster jokes before your relatives do. Posting will be light here for a few days as our family will be stuffing ourselves with poultry and pie.

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A Weekend of Triple Remembrance

Today is International Survivors of Suicide Day and National Adoption Day. Tomorrow  marks the Transgender Day of Remembrance. Three separate observances, but each of which has meaning for many of us as members of the LGBT community. No one deserves to die from hatred and prejudice, or because they saw no alternative to suicide. Every child deserves a permanent […]

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What Are You Making or Eating This Thanksgiving?

It’s that time of year again, when we lesbian moms plan to roast turkeys, bake Tofurky, and roll our eyes at our relatives’ turkey baster jokes. What are you planning on cooking or doing for the holiday? As I have for many years, I’ll be making my cranbanero sauce, which puts some habanero fire in the […]

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Weekly Political Roundup

First, a happy Veterans Day to all of you, including my spouse, who have served or are serving in our country’s armed forces. The observance this year is, of course, the first one at which gay and lesbian servicemembers can celebrate openly with their families. Over at the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, Col. E. A. […]

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Halloween Open Thread

It’s Halloween, even though the snow on the ground here in the Northeast is making it seem more like Christmas. I thought I’d celebrate with an open thread on all topics Halloweeny, so jump in with a comment on your kid’s (s’) costume(s), your costume, your favorite costume from childhood, best Halloween recipes, or what […]

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Are Boys in Princess Dresses the Scariest Thing on Halloween?

Halloween is almost upon us, the holiday that underscores like no other that society has certain gender expectations for boys and girls. Girls, by and large, are princesses; boys tend towards the violent as superheroes, Star Wars characters, soldiers, or pirates. But each year, it seems, at least one family makes the news because their child wants to defy those boundaries.

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Coming Out As an LGBT Parent

It’s National Coming Out Day once again, so I hope you’re having a happy day no matter where you are in your coming out journey. Here’s an updated version of a piece that sums up a lot of my thoughts on coming out as an LGBT parent. It has become something of a truism in […]

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Gay Dads Share Top 10 Things They Learned from Their Child

Sure, Father’s(s’) Day is over, but I can’t help sharing this great video of gay dads Mark Bromley and David Salie (brother of CBS News and NPR contributor Faith Salie). Kudos to them for such a funny, wise piece, and kudos to CBS News for running it.

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Happy Father’s Day (or Fathers’ Day)!

Happy Father’s Day to all of you who are fathers, have fathers in your lives, or use Father’s Day to celebrate one of the parents in your family in whatever fashion works for you. There’s no dearth of Father’s Day reading around, but I’ll point out a couple of LGBT-relevant pieces here: “A Father’s Day […]

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Happy Memorial Day – Get Your Posts Ready for Blogging for LGBT Families Day

Happy Memorial Day weekend to all! I hope you’re all setting off to do something fun with your families. I also hope you’re getting ready to post next Wednesday, June 1 for the 6th Annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day! Just post at your usual blog, and submit the post here to be added to […]

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May 17: A Day of Many Histories

May 17 has been a good day for civil rights. On this date in 1992, the World Health Organization removed homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses— one factor in the declaration of May 17 as International Day Against Homophobia. (U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has issued a press statement about the observance.) On May 17, […]

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Quote of the Week: Our Job as Mothers

Tina Fakhrid-Deen writes at The Root of the struggles both she and her lesbian mother have faced and how they have helped each other through them. She offers this wonderful advice: Our job as mothers is to provide shoulders for our children to stand on and pray that they grow wings to outsoar us. The […]

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Happy Mother’s (s’) Day!

A very happy day to all who claim the title! My last two posts have been in anticipation of the holiday, so I won’t post anything new here, except to remind you all that halfway between now and Father’s (s’) Day, I’m going to be hosting the sixth annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day, in […]

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Waffles and Roller Coasters: Mother’s (s’) Day Reflections

(Originally published as my Mombian newspaper column.) When I asked my seven-year-old son what he thought I should write in my parenting column about Mother’s Day, he said, “Tell them that having two moms is just like having two people of any kind take care of you, except it’s more work on Mother’s Day.” I’m […]

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The New Yorker Lesbian Mom Cartoon

I’ve been writing Mothers’ (‘s) Day for years (at least as far back as 2007); now the New Yorker makes the punctuation funny in one of its famed cartoons. Let’s not forget, however, that while Heather may have two mommies, Jane may have only one—but she may still be a lesbian. Here’s wishing you a happy day […]

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Orange Jews Is Good for You

Here’s a seasonal tale that even those not of Jewish heritage will appreciate: Rabbi Andrew Sacks, director of the Conservative movement’s Rabbinical Assembly in Israel, has shared an e-mail from Jewish scholar Susannah Heschel, in which she explained the relatively recent tradition of placing an orange on the Seder plate. She began the tradition “as a […]

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Happy Valentine’s Day

According to my poll the other day, most of you respond to Valentine’s Day by saying, “Love is love. This is a chance to show ours is the same as everyone else’s.” You’re closely followed by those who believe, “Any holiday involving chocolate is okay by me.” Several of you complained that the holiday was too […]

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What Do You Think of Valentine’s Day?

Take our completely unscientific but perhaps slightly amusing poll.

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For Martin Luther King Day

In honor of Martin Luther King Day, a poem from the divine Emily Dickinson: Color – Caste – Denomination Color — Caste — Denomination — These — are Time’s Affair — Death’s diviner Classifying Does not know they are — As in sleep — All Hue forgotten — Tenets — put behind — Death’s large […]

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Eleven LGBT Parenting Resolutions for 2011

The end of November through early January is one big party in our multi-celebration family, with Thanksgiving leading to Hanukkah, Christmas, New Year’s, and my spouse’s birthday in quick succession. In between finding room for our son’s new Lego sets and making sure the cats don’t eat the tinsel off the tree or knock over the menorah, however, I like to think about resolutions for the coming year. Here are 11 for 2011 that I offer as suggestions for other parents as well—some generic, some with an LGBT twist.

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