I especially like:

As almost-adults, they have already “turned out”—and they are indeed all right.

And also:

Cholodenko thus simultaneously informs the audience about lesbian families and shows how much of our experience is really a subset of the greater human experience.

Concise and on the mark. My hope is that the other really rich issues present in the film — maybe most rich for those of us lesbian parents; I concur with you on the perspective of the kids themselves — will eventually become the focus of attention I believe they should be. Ironically, the more folks obsess on this dimension of the plot (an construction; a means to an end), the more significance it holds. And the significance I believe it really holds — what seems clear from the plot’s movement and resolution — is really something altogether different. And very much appreciated.