By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 00:29:17 +0000

Many thanks for your comment, Martha. I apologize for saying you divorced Hannah’s father when you came out–I certainly did not mean to imply that the experience was easy. (Mostly, I was just repeating what the Globe had reported.) I’ve changed the wording slightly, however, based on your comment. It is wonderful to see two parents who are no longer married but are still committed to raising their children with love and respect for all. I’ve seen too many nasty custody battles, gay and straight. Your experience shows that it doesn’t have to be that way. I hope Hannah’s performance this weekend is a big success!

By: Hannah's Mom

Hannah's Mom — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:07:48 +0000

Thanks so much for this post. I’m Hannah Kilcoyne’s mom. I hope any of you in the Greater Boston area who are free this weekend will come see Falsettos. I do need to share that the show may not be appopriate for children under the age of 13 (and not because of the gay theme but because it’s very, very complex and there’s some serious language). So if you have young children, in my opinion it would be best to get a babysitter and consider it a date/bring-a-friend night (or afternoon). Tickets will be available at the door and the seating is open but I recommend coming early to get a good seat. I also need to comment on the words in the blog post “Her own mom divorced her father when she came out as a lesbian.” Sigh. That wasn’t quite how it happened. Five years ago when I met the woman I fell in love with, I had been married to Hannah’s dad for 16 years and was very, very fond of him, although there was something that wasn’t quite right (I didn’t know what until the bolt of lightning hit me). He and I had two wonderful children together, a home we’d lived in since our first child was born, a social life in our community and in our (very liberal) church, and had built a life together. So it wasn’t so simple for me. It wasn’t like I said to him, “Oh by the way I’m a lesbian now; see ya!” It was very, very painful for me, not to mention for him, and we worked hard together to create a wonderful new relationship built on love, our history together, our desire to continue parenting our children together, as well as respecting our own individual needs. We still live on the same property (he’s in a studio over our garage) and we are raising our kids together as we always did, with the exception that we sleep in different places and are no longer in an intimate relationship. The children are doing great and are fully accepting. I also want to share that my experience was more of a “discovery” than a “coming out,” since I was not consciously in The Closet. I just didn’t know I was gay until I met this woman. Exhilarating and liberating, yet excruciating. Perhaps some of you out there know what I’m talking about. I’m proud to be where I am now, living an authentic life (except for the fact that I’m now single – that’s not so fun) and I’m very proud of my children and my former husband for their hard work and love that keeps us still together and still a Family.

By: N

Wed, 09 Dec 2009 12:50:50 +0000

Good on them. Hugely so. Makes me wish we were up there, so we could go.

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