Comments on: Double Pregnancy, Double the Fun? http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/ Sustenance for Lesbian Moms Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jennifer http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-104943 jennifer Thu, 16 Sep 2010 12:55:23 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-104943 I know this post is old, but I am going to comment anyway. I have been trying to talk my partner into a dual pregnancy, and she is refusing. Mostly for selfish reasons since she's afraid she won't be spoiled even though deep down I am confident she knows i would never let her go without, especially pregnant! overall she Thinks the idea is more "weird" and i think its truly ingenious. considering i've already been pregnant myself once before i know how i am going to react and i was extremely low maintenance. my take on it is that i have a job where i can't take time off of work constantly for appointments that aren't mine, yet if we were both pregnant we'd be going together. Not to mention getting to share maternity leave together. my main take on it is that with both of us pregnant i wouldn't be missing out on things that i couldn't be there for otherwise. now what's so weird about that? I'm sure the decision impacts every couple differently, and you can only do what works for your family. Either way, There's my take on it! I know this post is old, but I am going to comment anyway. I have been trying to talk my partner into a dual pregnancy, and she is refusing. Mostly for selfish reasons since she’s afraid she won’t be spoiled even though deep down I am confident she knows i would never let her go without, especially pregnant! overall she Thinks the idea is more “weird” and i think its truly ingenious. considering i’ve already been pregnant myself once before i know how i am going to react and i was extremely low maintenance. my take on it is that i have a job where i can’t take time off of work constantly for appointments that aren’t mine, yet if we were both pregnant we’d be going together. Not to mention getting to share maternity leave together. my main take on it is that with both of us pregnant i wouldn’t be missing out on things that i couldn’t be there for otherwise. now what’s so weird about that? I’m sure the decision impacts every couple differently, and you can only do what works for your family. Either way, There’s my take on it!

]]> By: Mombian » Blog Archive » Congrats, Cat and Jennifer! http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92687 Mombian » Blog Archive » Congrats, Cat and Jennifer! Fri, 24 Jul 2009 02:29:20 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92687 [...] not be common, but the Coras aren’t the only lesbian moms to go this route. In fact, we had a discussion about this here at Mombian a couple of weeks [...] [...] not be common, but the Coras aren’t the only lesbian moms to go this route. In fact, we had a discussion about this here at Mombian a couple of weeks [...]

]]> By: carey http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92586 carey Thu, 09 Jul 2009 05:02:21 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92586 Our pregnancies overlapped - my wife was 20 weeks pregnant when I got pg (via IVF #3) with twins. It was certainly an adventure... and not one I really recommend. We managed the litter box easily enough - mask & gloves. We managed me not puking during the birth of our son. I did say "Thank God I am pg now, b/c if I had seen this part before, I am not sure I could've gone through with it myself" What can I say? I'm a wuss. I think the hardest part was that I wasn't fully able to be there for her in her last trimester - to pamper her. I was nauseous & uncomfortable - I couldn't be the wife I would've liked to have been during those last few weeks when she could have used someone to rub her feet or go get her icecream at 1am. I am happy I experienced pregnancy - I love how we created our family. It was challenging at the time... but now, I love that our kids, our Trio, are so close in age - so being pg at the same time has its perks too. Our pregnancies overlapped – my wife was 20 weeks pregnant when I got pg (via IVF #3) with twins. It was certainly an adventure… and not one I really recommend. We managed the litter box easily enough – mask & gloves. We managed me not puking during the birth of our son. I did say “Thank God I am pg now, b/c if I had seen this part before, I am not sure I could’ve gone through with it myself” What can I say? I’m a wuss. I think the hardest part was that I wasn’t fully able to be there for her in her last trimester – to pamper her. I was nauseous & uncomfortable – I couldn’t be the wife I would’ve liked to have been during those last few weeks when she could have used someone to rub her feet or go get her icecream at 1am. I am happy I experienced pregnancy – I love how we created our family. It was challenging at the time… but now, I love that our kids, our Trio, are so close in age – so being pg at the same time has its perks too.

]]> By: Mouse http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92585 Mouse Thu, 09 Jul 2009 04:35:27 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92585 Only one of us (me) has had any desire to be pregnant, which has made that decision incredibly easy. With our son, I wondered if my wife would change her mind after going through the first delivery, but it only made her more sure of her decision. Even though I was the only pregnant one, cleaning the litterbox had always been my job and was too much for my wife--though she was a real trooper with diapers. So we had a petsitter come do a complete cleaning once a week (and play with our dog some too). She even came and took care of our dog on short notice when we were at the hospital for delivery, free of charge. The next time around, we won't have to worry about a cat anymore, and I'm hoping to prevail on our dog-friendly neighbor for the other part. Only one of us (me) has had any desire to be pregnant, which has made that decision incredibly easy. With our son, I wondered if my wife would change her mind after going through the first delivery, but it only made her more sure of her decision.

Even though I was the only pregnant one, cleaning the litterbox had always been my job and was too much for my wife–though she was a real trooper with diapers. So we had a petsitter come do a complete cleaning once a week (and play with our dog some too). She even came and took care of our dog on short notice when we were at the hospital for delivery, free of charge.

The next time around, we won’t have to worry about a cat anymore, and I’m hoping to prevail on our dog-friendly neighbor for the other part.

]]> By: Dana http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92584 Dana Thu, 09 Jul 2009 03:11:04 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92584 ROFL. Hadn't thought about the litter box thing, but you're SO right. ROFL. Hadn’t thought about the litter box thing, but you’re SO right.

]]> By: Mikhela http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92581 Mikhela Wed, 08 Jul 2009 12:14:42 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92581 We toyed with the idea of trying to get pregnant at the same time - I thought it would be no big deal; my partner refused. I'm SOOOO glad she refused to participate - with just one pregnancy between us felt like we really shared something. I imagine the experience would be totally different if you were each obsessed with your own pregnancy. We toyed with the idea of trying to get pregnant at the same time – I thought it would be no big deal; my partner refused. I’m SOOOO glad she refused to participate – with just one pregnancy between us felt like we really shared something. I imagine the experience would be totally different if you were each obsessed with your own pregnancy.

]]> By: Whozat http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/08/double-pregnancy-double-the-fun/comment-page-1/#comment-92580 Whozat Wed, 08 Jul 2009 11:52:40 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=5261#comment-92580 Sidenote - I carried our baby, who was made with my partner's egg. Shout out for IVF! ;-) Now, the real comment: I certainly would not criticize any couple's choice of how to go about making their baby but, having recently been pregnant, that whole simultaneous pregnancy things seems very impractical to me. Two main questions come to mind: Who empties the litter box? (They're lesbians. You <I>know</i> there's a litter box.) And who is left to be the sane one? Sidenote – I carried our baby, who was made with my partner’s egg. Shout out for IVF! ;-)

Now, the real comment: I certainly would not criticize any couple’s choice of how to go about making their baby but, having recently been pregnant, that whole simultaneous pregnancy things seems very impractical to me.

Two main questions come to mind: Who empties the litter box? (They’re lesbians. You know there’s a litter box.) And who is left to be the sane one?

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