Comments on: “She Got Me Pregnant”: Episode 61 http://www.mombian.com/2009/03/06/she-got-me-pregnant-episode-61/ Sustenance for Lesbian Moms Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Halene http://www.mombian.com/2009/03/06/she-got-me-pregnant-episode-61/comment-page-1/#comment-88877 Halene Tue, 24 Mar 2009 02:09:36 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=3607#comment-88877 I remember girls chasing boys at my school ... if memory serves, it was usually a couple of girls who seemed to be particularly male identified from a really young age.. for whatever reason. It definitely wasn't something girls or boys were doing en masse. Maybe I just wasn't the type of girl the boys chased.. I'd probably end up chasing them back at some point myself, or playing somewhere else, not enjoying being victimized in that way myself. But, I think the point is an interesting one to ask kids who are being confronted with that type of play.. what if the shoe was on the other foot? How do you think the kids are feeling.. the ones chasing? the ones being chased? Interesting opportunity for some social observation regardless which side your youngster falls on. I remember girls chasing boys at my school … if memory serves, it was usually a couple of girls who seemed to be particularly male identified from a really young age.. for whatever reason. It definitely wasn’t something girls or boys were doing en masse. Maybe I just wasn’t the type of girl the boys chased.. I’d probably end up chasing them back at some point myself, or playing somewhere else, not enjoying being victimized in that way myself. But, I think the point is an interesting one to ask kids who are being confronted with that type of play.. what if the shoe was on the other foot? How do you think the kids are feeling.. the ones chasing? the ones being chased? Interesting opportunity for some social observation regardless which side your youngster falls on.

]]> By: Emily http://www.mombian.com/2009/03/06/she-got-me-pregnant-episode-61/comment-page-1/#comment-88270 Emily Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:23:58 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=3607#comment-88270 I remember very clearly my own experience with the boy-girl wars that occurred annually at my hippy-dippy Montessori school. I had friends who were both boys and girls, but one other girl and I fought on the boys' side. I can't recall why, in particular, though growing up I always had a sort of aversion to all-female groups, and this must have been part of that. I wish I could remember whether my mom and dad talked to me about the dynamic at work there. They probably would have had insightful stuff to say. I'm 19 now, and I don't think the boy-girl war damaged me too much. Good for your son for standing up for himself! That's fantastic. I remember very clearly my own experience with the boy-girl wars that occurred annually at my hippy-dippy Montessori school. I had friends who were both boys and girls, but one other girl and I fought on the boys’ side. I can’t recall why, in particular, though growing up I always had a sort of aversion to all-female groups, and this must have been part of that. I wish I could remember whether my mom and dad talked to me about the dynamic at work there. They probably would have had insightful stuff to say.

I’m 19 now, and I don’t think the boy-girl war damaged me too much. Good for your son for standing up for himself! That’s fantastic.

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