Comments on: Cynthia Nixon on Marriage Equality and Stepparenting http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/ Sustenance for Lesbian Moms Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jane and Jane Magazine, Celebrating Lesbian Living http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-92411 Jane and Jane Magazine, Celebrating Lesbian Living Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:42:43 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-92411 [...] Marinoni, the stay-at-home mom, has no legal right to their children if Nixon dies. She said this back in November as [...] [...] Marinoni, the stay-at-home mom, has no legal right to their children if Nixon dies. She said this back in November as [...]

]]> By: Mombian: Sustenance for Lesbian Moms » Blog Archive » Cynthia Nixon’s Partner Won’t Get Parental Rights with Marriage http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-92048 Mombian: Sustenance for Lesbian Moms » Blog Archive » Cynthia Nixon’s Partner Won’t Get Parental Rights with Marriage Thu, 21 May 2009 05:16:54 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-92048 [...] Christine, the stay-at-home mom, has no legal right to their children if Nixon dies. She said this back in November as [...] [...] Christine, the stay-at-home mom, has no legal right to their children if Nixon dies. She said this back in November as [...]

]]> By: Dana http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-84574 Dana Wed, 19 Nov 2008 01:15:13 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-84574 Yes, that's the general wisdom in LGBT legal circles, Kathygnome. As I understand it (and I'm not a lawyer), if the legal basis for the parent-child relationship has come from the parents' relationship, as with a non-bio mom on a child's birth cert, states that don't recognize the parents' relationship might not recognize the nonbio-child relationship either. An adoption or court order is the only way to guarantee the parent-child relationship will be protected everywhere. Good point, though, and one that bears repeating, because it's not obvious. Yes, that’s the general wisdom in LGBT legal circles, Kathygnome. As I understand it (and I’m not a lawyer), if the legal basis for the parent-child relationship has come from the parents’ relationship, as with a non-bio mom on a child’s birth cert, states that don’t recognize the parents’ relationship might not recognize the nonbio-child relationship either. An adoption or court order is the only way to guarantee the parent-child relationship will be protected everywhere.

Good point, though, and one that bears repeating, because it’s not obvious.

]]> By: Kathygnome http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-84545 Kathygnome Tue, 18 Nov 2008 19:31:59 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-84545 Even if a child is born to a marriage as a result of AI in Mass and both names are on the birth certificate, we were advised at the Fenway's AI clinic to go through either a second parent adoption or court finding of parenthood. Even if a child is born to a marriage as a result of AI in Mass and both names are on the birth certificate, we were advised at the Fenway’s AI clinic to go through either a second parent adoption or court finding of parenthood.

]]> By: Nancy Polikoff http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-84541 Nancy Polikoff Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:31:57 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-84541 You're right, Dana. And I find this very interesting...A friend of mine in Massachusetts, who is very active in LGBT issues, married her partner who is the bio mom of the children they are raising. When we talked, she seemed to think this gave her some legal status with the children. It doesn't...at least not much. When a custodial parent dies, the non-custodial parent gets the children. Some states will allow a third party to make an argument that the children should stay with them, but it's an uphill climb. Also, pardon me for not knowing where Cynthia Nixon lives, but if she lives in California and is in a registered domestic partnership, then Marinoni is already the stepparent of her children. Oh..okay..I just listened to the interview and it turns out she lives in New York, but she's not going to Connecticut or Massachusetts to marry because she wants to wait til it comes to her home. Well, New York is the one state that is recognizing out-of-state same-sex marriages in many instances...so what exactly is she waiting for? But, again, it won't be her partner gets the kids if she dies... You’re right, Dana. And I find this very interesting…A friend of mine in Massachusetts, who is very active in LGBT issues, married her partner who is the bio mom of the children they are raising. When we talked, she seemed to think this gave her some legal status with the children. It doesn’t…at least not much. When a custodial parent dies, the non-custodial parent gets the children. Some states will allow a third party to make an argument that the children should stay with them, but it’s an uphill climb. Also, pardon me for not knowing where Cynthia Nixon lives, but if she lives in California and is in a registered domestic partnership, then Marinoni is already the stepparent of her children. Oh..okay..I just listened to the interview and it turns out she lives in New York, but she’s not going to Connecticut or Massachusetts to marry because she wants to wait til it comes to her home. Well, New York is the one state that is recognizing out-of-state same-sex marriages in many instances…so what exactly is she waiting for? But, again, it won’t be her partner gets the kids if she dies…

]]> By: FranIAm http://www.mombian.com/2008/11/17/cynthia-nixon-on-marriage-equality-and-stepparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-84423 FranIAm Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:26:03 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2538#comment-84423 Curious indeed... As a step-parent I understand this as you do. There are, as you point out, a veritable tangle of legal matters. Which is why the topic of marriage alone can't be the end all/be all, but must be the cornerstone of clarification and of justice. Curious indeed… As a step-parent I understand this as you do. There are, as you point out, a veritable tangle of legal matters. Which is why the topic of marriage alone can’t be the end all/be all, but must be the cornerstone of clarification and of justice.

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