Comments on: New York Recognizes Massachusetts Marriages; Still Opposed to Red Sox http://www.mombian.com/2008/05/29/new-york-recognizes-massachusetts-marriages-still-opposed-to-red-sox/ Sustenance for Lesbian Moms Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dana http://www.mombian.com/2008/05/29/new-york-recognizes-massachusetts-marriages-still-opposed-to-red-sox/comment-page-1/#comment-76868 Dana Sat, 31 May 2008 12:43:31 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2241#comment-76868 TCS: I'm not a lawyer, and I don't know how things will work in CA, but I do know that in MA (and in NJ), where both moms will be put on the birth certificate when their child is born, the non-bio mom can still do a second-parent adoption--and that this is recommended for just the reasons you say. TCS: I’m not a lawyer, and I don’t know how things will work in CA, but I do know that in MA (and in NJ), where both moms will be put on the birth certificate when their child is born, the non-bio mom can still do a second-parent adoption–and that this is recommended for just the reasons you say.

]]> By: TCS http://www.mombian.com/2008/05/29/new-york-recognizes-massachusetts-marriages-still-opposed-to-red-sox/comment-page-1/#comment-76854 TCS Fri, 30 May 2008 19:48:20 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2241#comment-76854 DivaJean wrote: "The biggest issue will be- who will watch our 4 kidlets?" Honeymoon at Disneyland? Seriously, we got married in '04 in Toronto. We joke that we're defending the sanctity of marriage by being unable to divorce. But now that has probably changed, right? We should be able to divorce in any state that recognizes our marriage. (Although I think NY still doesn't have no-fault divorce, an outdated situation that has yet to be fixed) My question now (and we will ask our lawyer, who will probably be very busy this year!) is, am I now the legal parent of my son, who was born to my partner after we were married, but before this executive order? And if I'm *automatically* his parent in NY, does that mean I *can't* adopt him? Then what happens when we travel over the summer to a DOMA state? Back to being standby guardian/health care power of attorney/mommy's roommate? DivaJean wrote:
“The biggest issue will be- who will watch our 4 kidlets?”

Honeymoon at Disneyland?

Seriously, we got married in ’04 in Toronto. We joke that we’re defending the sanctity of marriage by being unable to divorce. But now that has probably changed, right? We should be able to divorce in any state that recognizes our marriage. (Although I think NY still doesn’t have no-fault divorce, an outdated situation that has yet to be fixed)

My question now (and we will ask our lawyer, who will probably be very busy this year!) is, am I now the legal parent of my son, who was born to my partner after we were married, but before this executive order?

And if I’m *automatically* his parent in NY, does that mean I *can’t* adopt him? Then what happens when we travel over the summer to a DOMA state? Back to being standby guardian/health care power of attorney/mommy’s roommate?

]]> By: DivaJean http://www.mombian.com/2008/05/29/new-york-recognizes-massachusetts-marriages-still-opposed-to-red-sox/comment-page-1/#comment-76853 DivaJean Fri, 30 May 2008 16:43:06 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2241#comment-76853 We are beginning to seriously consider a trip to California over the summer. As an upstate New Yorker, Canada had beckoned to us- but the concept of being unable to divorce without residency had me fearful. I am a child of divorce- and though it's unforeseen- I would not want to enter into something I could potentially not get out of in a reasonable enough manner. Massachusetts does not provide for out of state marriage- so not a go for us. But given NY State Gov Patterson's assurances and the openness of California's marriage law- this could work for us. The biggest issue will be- who will watch our 4 kidlets? We are beginning to seriously consider a trip to California over the summer.

As an upstate New Yorker, Canada had beckoned to us- but the concept of being unable to divorce without residency had me fearful. I am a child of divorce- and though it’s unforeseen- I would not want to enter into something I could potentially not get out of in a reasonable enough manner.

Massachusetts does not provide for out of state marriage- so not a go for us.

But given NY State Gov Patterson’s assurances and the openness of California’s marriage law- this could work for us. The biggest issue will be- who will watch our 4 kidlets?

]]>