Comments on: Pregnant and Miserable http://www.mombian.com/2008/04/23/pregnant-and-miserable/ Sustenance for Lesbian Moms Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mombian » Blog Archive » Lonely Lesbian to Tour May 2008 http://www.mombian.com/2008/04/23/pregnant-and-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-76395 Mombian » Blog Archive » Lonely Lesbian to Tour May 2008 Wed, 14 May 2008 10:07:55 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2160#comment-76395 [...] bawdy, unflinchingly honest memoir of her journey to motherhood as a single lesbian. (Here’s my review.) Askowitz has now kindly offered to share some of her misery with you, Mombian readers. Please [...] [...] bawdy, unflinchingly honest memoir of her journey to motherhood as a single lesbian. (Here’s my review.) Askowitz has now kindly offered to share some of her misery with you, Mombian readers. Please [...]

]]> By: Mombian » Blog Archive » “She Got Me Pregnant”: Episode 26 http://www.mombian.com/2008/04/23/pregnant-and-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-76224 Mombian » Blog Archive » “She Got Me Pregnant”: Episode 26 Mon, 05 May 2008 20:49:28 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2160#comment-76224 [...] I discuss two new memoirs about the journey to single motherhood, including the cynical and funny My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy and My Miserable Choosing You, (both of which I reviewed at length in text a few days ago—see [...] [...] I discuss two new memoirs about the journey to single motherhood, including the cynical and funny My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy and My Miserable Choosing You, (both of which I reviewed at length in text a few days ago—see [...]

]]> By: dlvc http://www.mombian.com/2008/04/23/pregnant-and-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-76135 dlvc Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:31:29 +0000 http://www.mombian.com/?p=2160#comment-76135 I have not yet read the Askowitz book, though I have read the Aizley book, which I enjoyed. One thing I find a little disconcerting, though, is that these popular books on lesbian motherhood involve failed relationships, and ultimately a limited (or nonexistent) parenting role for the would-be non-bio-mom. It sounds like for Askowitz, this decision was made pretty early on, but a failed relationship is clearly part of the story. And as you mention, for Aizley, you can see the cracks in "Buying Dad" (and further in the "Confessions of the Other Mother" anthology). Rachel Pepper's story (author of "The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians") is along the same lines. Although she presents herself as a single mama from the get go, if you read her other writings, you realize it wasn't necessarily so clear cut (see her essay in the "Home Fronts" anthology). I find it disconcerting that our most high profile authors are bio-moms who did not find a way to successfully navigate the admittedly sometimes sticky two-mom path. And while I am grateful to Aizley for the "Confessions of the Other Mother" anthology, even that book sends a pretty clear message that the proper role for non-bio-moms is "supportive" (i.e. secondary). I have not yet read the Askowitz book, though I have read the Aizley book, which I enjoyed. One thing I find a little disconcerting, though, is that these popular books on lesbian motherhood involve failed relationships, and ultimately a limited (or nonexistent) parenting role for the would-be non-bio-mom. It sounds like for Askowitz, this decision was made pretty early on, but a failed relationship is clearly part of the story. And as you mention, for Aizley, you can see the cracks in “Buying Dad” (and further in the “Confessions of the Other Mother” anthology). Rachel Pepper’s story (author of “The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians”) is along the same lines. Although she presents herself as a single mama from the get go, if you read her other writings, you realize it wasn’t necessarily so clear cut (see her essay in the “Home Fronts” anthology).

I find it disconcerting that our most high profile authors are bio-moms who did not find a way to successfully navigate the admittedly sometimes sticky two-mom path. And while I am grateful to Aizley for the “Confessions of the Other Mother” anthology, even that book sends a pretty clear message that the proper role for non-bio-moms is “supportive” (i.e. secondary).

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