Comments on: Adoptive Parenting Study Supports All Same-Sex Parents

By: Family Pride’s Blog » it’s all relatives: a guest post by Polly Pagenhart

Sun, 22 Jul 2007 10:56:47 +0000

[...] It’s All Relatives From the moment I cut my first umbilical cord, I have known in my blood that my children are my children because my love makes them so. Ask them. Okay, ask the one who can talk. She’ll tell you. And the little one, the one that only grunts and squeaks: look at the expression he flashes when he sees me. Note his response to my pinkie finger. It’s manna to him. You don’t have to be subjected to yet another report of parental abuse to know that the ability to conceive does not automatically confer the ability to parent. By the same token, you don’t have to wonder whether non-birth parents like me will move heaven and earth to help my kids live the fullest, most love-bedecked lives. (Studies will tell you that anyway.) What I have to give my kids is all nurture, no nature, and I have had to learn to be fine with that. After all, no matter how anyone landed the kids in their family, it’s the nurture that takes most of the effort. And, it’s the one thing you can change. [...]

By: It’s all relatives at LesbianDad

It’s all relatives at LesbianDad — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 10:20:17 +0000

[...] From the moment I cut my first umbilical cord, I have known in my blood that my children are my children because my love makes them so. Ask them. Okay, ask the one who can talk. She’ll tell you. And the little one, the one that only grunts and squeaks: look at the expression he flashes when he sees me. Note his response to my pinkie finger. It’s manna to him. You don’t have to be outraged by yet another report of parental abuse to know that the ability to conceive does not automatically confer the ability to parent. By the same token, you don’t have to wonder whether non-birth parents like me will move heaven and earth to help my kids live the fullest, most love-bedecked lives. (Studies will tell you that anyway.) What I have to give my kids is all nurture, no nature, and I have had to learn to be fine with that. After all, no matter how anyone landed the kids in their family, it’s the nurture that takes most of the effort. And, it’s the one thing you can change. [...]

By: On Lawn

On Lawn — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 19:37:38 +0000

Thanks for pointing this study out to me. I've seen some others take this on, and have compiled it for Opine.

By: Patience is a virtue at LesbianDad

Patience is a virtue at LesbianDad — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 18:25:00 +0000

[...] Later note: extending the adoption-fest theme here, check out Mombian’s post yesterday providing a synopsis of, commentary on, and links to a new national study, published in the American Sociological Review, which finds that — surprise — “Adoptive parents invest more time and financial resources in their children than biological parents.” Read Dana’s sharp notes, and the piece she links to by Shannon LC Cate at Peter’s Cross Station about Adoption Matters. [...]