He looked at previous case law and wrote a brief, which he filed with the appropriate judge a few months before our due date. Although there were no clear precedents in our county, there had been a few cases like this in other jurisdictions around the country. We had to show up in court, but knew by then that it was mostly a formality–our lawyer had already been told that the state wouldn’t oppose our petition. Basically, the judge asked us if we knew we’d both be responsible for our child-to-be. We said yes, and he signed the order.

I believe that now, NJ and CA will allow both moms to be put on the birth certificate from day one, without an adoption, even if they don’t go the egg donation route. Check with your own lawyer before assuming this, however. I’m not sure of all the details.

I would imagine that this would be very difficult to do in Florida, but best of luck if you give it a try.