Civil partnerships between same-sex couples are now legal in the UK. I am celebrating this development with as much joy as I celebrated the first Vermont civil unions (and perhaps more, since I once lived in the UK for two years). It’s wonderful that same-sex couples will now get the same rights, protections, and responsibilities as opposite-sex ones. Still, I am not satisfied. Peter Tatchell of the Guardian puts it well when he says a separate category of union/partnership is akin to apartheid. People would be up in arms if there were separate categories of partnership for whites and non-whites, he notes. Why is a separate category of partnership for gay and lesbian couples acceptable?
Additionally, the BBC and The Times feel they have to put the words “wedding” and “marry” in quotation marks when referring to same-sex ceremonies. Funny, I use the same punctuation when talking about my son “cooking” on his toy stove while I make dinner. It’s kind of like he’s really cooking, but not quite.
So: progress, but not equality. Civil partnerships are at least a significant step up from the oppressive Section 28 ruling that was in force when I lived in the U.K., which prohibited councils and schools from “intentionally promoting homosexuality.” A registered partnership gives same-sex couples in the U.K. far more legal protections than we have here in the U.S. Let’s celebrate the victory, but realize it’s only one step along the way.

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Mombian: Sustenance for Lesbian Moms » Blog Archive » Same-Sex Couples in UK Can Now Adopt
on Dec 30th, 2005
@ 3:29 pm:
[...] Now if only they’d call same-sex “civil partnerships” marriages. . . . Let’s hope for continued progress towards equal rights in 2006. by D @ 3:25 pm. Filed under Uncategorized [link] [...]
Mombian: Sustenance for Lesbian Moms » Blog Archive » Weekly Political Roundup
on Mar 10th, 2006
@ 9:16 pm:
[...] Still, as I’ve explained before, a civil partnership is still not the same as a marriage. It reduces journalists to using quotation marks in silly places ("Minister announces gay ‘wedding’") and still has the feel of a second-class category. This is not to disparage those who are publicly taking the steps they can to celebrate their relationships and secure their rights as couples. Someday maybe your civil partnerships will simply be called marriages, full stop. by D | posted in Politics [...]
Mombian: Sustenance for Lesbian Moms » Blog Archive » Marital Bliss, Part III
on Nov 16th, 2006
@ 5:59 pm:
[...] Farther afield, the BBC News yesterday highlighted a lesbian couple in South Africa who want to be among the first to marry under the country’s Civil Union bill, passed two days ago. Note, however, the BBC’s use of the terms “marry” and “wedding” even though the legislation is for “civil unions.” The term “marriage” is so powerful (as I’ve said before) that its verb and associated vocabulary even creep in where there was a deliberate effort made to keep it out. It’s also interesting that the Beeb chose not to put “marry” and “wedding” in quotes (though I’m doing so here in citing them), when only a short year ago, they felt it was necessary to use them when speaking about same-sex ceremonies in their home country. Progress, one punctuation mark at a time. [My error. Although the bill that South Africa passed is named the “Civil Union Act,” it authorizes the “voluntary union of two persons, which is solemnized and registered by either a marriage or civil union.”] [...]
Len
on Nov 29th, 2006
@ 11:58 pm:
Well, I have a little difficulty with this one. I’m a conservative, with fairly well thought out views, that have been a long time developing, as the debate has been going on for quite some years over gay rights and then formalized homosexual unions. My own daughter is getting married to a fine young doctor in just under four months, and I’ve been thinking about the rightness of how they established their friendship and love over the past year and are conducting themselves into married life together now. They’ll be married in a church, which I am happy about, although the wedding reception may well be in a secular setting. That’s fine. I came across William Butler Yeats on his ‘unknown instructors’ last night and I think it has some bearing on how I feel on this issue.
Yeats says:
“What they undertook to do they brought to pass. All things hang like a drop of dew upon a blade of grass.”
You like that?